Welcoming Children to the Lord's Supper Toolkit
From Faith Formation
At Fleetwood CRC in Surrey, British Columbia, children of any age and their parent(s) are invited to attend ‘Children at the Table: A Course for Children and Parents’ a two-session course (offered twice a year depending on interest) to learn more about God’s invitation to them in baptism and in the Lord’s Supper. Led by the pastors and held on Sunday afternoons, the course is held around the communion table and lasts about 45 minutes to an hour.
At the end of the second session, each child is given a simple form on which they are invited to write or draw a personal Statement of Faith following this prompt: “I want to participate in communion because . . .” On the next Lord’s Supper Sunday following the course, the children’s responses (which the pastors say are a joy to read) are included in the worship service bulletin, and the children are identified by their first name and the initial letter of their last name. Parents receive a letter with encouraging ideas to help them prepare their child both for their first communion and for future Lord’s Supper participation.
Pastor Tom Bomhof says that there is no pressure placed on people to take the class—it’s up to the discretion of the parents, and it’s not a requirement in order to participate in the Lord’s Supper—but the class is available for any child who has ever wondered about the meaning of the Lord’s Supper or who has ever asked, “Can I do that?”
A two session course for children and their parent(s) written by Rev. Tom Bomhof, Fleetwood CRC
Children should bring to the event (as they are able):
Pastor/Leader should bring:
Begin by gathering together at the front of the sanctuary, near the communion table.
Use the following talking points as you begin your time together:
Read Matthew 19: 13-15.
Pray: Dear Jesus, thank you that you accepted us no matter who we are, no matter what age we are. Thank you that you know each one of us and have brought us here to this place. Help us to learn about and be encouraged in your family. Amen
Print the following on the whiteboard or chart paper: “What is a Family?”
Invite each family to respond verbally or by writing down a one line response.
After a few moments, ask:
“How do you know you’re a member of a family?”
“Is everyone the same in a family?”
“How do you become a member of a family?”
“Do you remember joining your family?
“Are there any stories about how you joined your family?
Show the birth certificates and ask, “What do these documents tell you?”
Say: “You were also born into a bigger family, the family of God, the church.”
a. The Church is a family: How did you join the family of God?
b. Baptism: Entering the family of God
Invite everyone to look their baptism certificates and baptism pictures.
Ask the following questions:
What happens in baptism?
What does baptism mean?
Why do we baptize with water?
Does anyone remember being baptized?
Point out that baptism is done differently in different churches: babies/adults; sprinkling/immersion; back of church/front of church; in the church/at the beach, etc.
Begin by gathering together around the baptismal font.
During Session 1 we talked about:
a. Family
we belong to TWO families—can you tell me about those two families?
b. Baptism
tell me what we learned about baptism.
Act out a baptism, inviting two children to act as parents, using the doll as their child
Ask the kids to tell you about what’s happening.
Talk about God’s covenant, and joining God’s family
Invite kids to tell you about what they do at home around the dinner table.
Talking points (show power point images to help explain each point, optional):
Old Testament, Passover
New Testament, Lord’s Supper
Early church, communion
Today, we still do it; we try to be more like Jesus did it, around a table
Other names for this sacrament:
Communion We Remember: Past, Present, Future
Talking points:
Practice holding the bread and cup together.
Extend the invitation using words like the following:
If you love Jesus and you can remember things about his life and death and if you want to learn more about him and learn to love the world like he did: you’re invited! Don’t need to know everything, remember everything. God will use the food of his Table to help you grow, just like your dinner table food helps you to grow.
Talking Points:
we gather
we welcome
we sing praise
we listen
we pray
we give
we remember
we go out to serve
Consider together the mood of worship:
Read Luke 5: Dinner with the Tax Collectors
Talking Points:
Invite everyone to stand around the Lord’s Supper table so that all can get a good look as you close by demonstrating what happens during a Lord’s Supper celebration.
“Now let us hear the story of how this sacrament began.
On the night on which Jesus was betrayed, he sat at supper with his disciples. While they were eating, he took a piece of bread, said a blessing, broke it, and gave it to them with the words, “This is my body. It is broken for you. Do this to remember me.”
Later, he took a cup of wine, saying, “This cup is God’s new covenant, sealed with my blood. Drink from it, all of you, to remember me”
So now, following Jesus’ example and command, we take this bread and this cup, the ordinary things of the world, which Christ made special.
And as he said a prayer before sharing, let us do so too.”
“Gratitude, praise, hearts lifted high, voices full and joyful, minds alert and attentive…all these things you deserve, O Gracious God.
For when we were nothing, you made us something. When we had no name and no faith and no future, you called us your children. When we lost our way or turned away, you did not abandon us. When we came back to you, you ran to us, your arms opened wide in welcome.
And look, you prepare a table for us offering not just bread, not just wine, but your very self so that we may be filled, forgiven, healed, blessed, and made new again. You are worth all our praise.
And so now we bless you and join our voices with the church on earth and heaven in saying, Holy, holy, holy Lord, God of power and might. Heaven and earth are full of your glory. Hosanna in the highest. Blessed is he who comes in the name of the Lord. Hosanna in the highest.
O Father, Son and Holy Spirit, as we do in this place what you did in an upstairs room, send down your Holy Spirit on us and on these gifts of bread and wine that they may become for us your body, healing, forgiving and making us whole; and that we may become, for you, your body, loving and caring in the world until your kingdom comes.
In the name of Jesus, Amen”
“This is the table, not of the church, but of the Lord.
It is made ready for those who love him and who want to love him more.
So come, you who have much faith and you who have little,
you who have been here often, and you who have not been for a long time,
you who have tried to follow and succeeded, and you who have tried and failed.
Come, because it is not I who invite you: it is our Lord.
It is his will that those who want him should meet him here.
The gifts of God for the people of God.”
Song: “Eat This Bread, Drink This Cup”
The Bread
“The bread which we break is a sharing in the body of Christ.
Take, eat, remember and believe that the body our Lord Jesus Christ was given for your forgiveness.”
The Cup
“The cup which we drink is a sharing in the blood of Christ.
Take, drink, remember and believe that the precious blood of Christ was shed for your redemption.”
Read: Psalm 103:1-5
Pray: “In gratitude, in deep gratitude for this moment, this meal, these people, on this day, we give ourselves to you. Take us out to live as changed people because we have shared the Living Bread and cannot remain the same. Ask much of us, expect much from us, enable much by us, encourage many through us. So, Lord, may we live to your glory, both as inhabitants of earth and citizens of the commonwealth of heaven. In the name of Jesus, Amen.”
Distribute the Dear Parents letters a Statement of Faith paper to each child/family. Invite the children to talk with their parent(s) at home about whether they would like to participate in the Lord’s Supper and if so, why they would like to do that. Let the children know that after that conversation and when they feel ready to do, they are encouraged to fill out the Statement of Faith themselves—using words or pictures—and to give that to the pastor, who looks forward to reading/seeing it.